Strategy #7: Anchor and Float

I have a hard time with transition and change. I tend to always look for a place to anchor, and to stay. But that is not how life happens. I blogged at the conclusion of 2017 and 2018 and shared some of my learning in years of transition, hard decisions, surprises, challenges, and celebrations. 2019…

Strategy #6: Gather Heroes

I have always planted myself in whatever community I reside in and surrounded myself with the women that make up that community. I never did it intentionally or with forethought, I just sought out relationships with the women nearby. And I am an introvert. The combination of the two means that I ended up with…

Strategy #5: Enter with Intention

And so, dear heart, I come to one of the harder topics for me, marriage. The funny thing is I did not grow up dreaming of having children. I didn’t dream of their names, I didn’t dream about their gender, I didn’t dream about a family life, and as my 20s began to scroll by,…

Strategy #4: Wear Your Own Shoes

I truly enjoy my job. I work with Physicians in a Healthcare organization.  I am privileged to facilitate and deliver workshops that onboard new physicians but also equip physicians to be effective in leadership roles, provide communication skills coaching and, most importantly, continue culture change within the organization and physician group. In my group, we…

Strategy #3: It’s a Journey – Go with Adventure

Life is a journey. How many times have you heard that or something similar? It is often followed with “enjoy the ride”. WHAT? My question is always, what does that mean? Journey to me implies some risk, some adventure, some forging ahead, some unknown danger around the corner, some redirection, some map searching, some deserts,…

Strategy #2: Settle In But Don’t Settle

As I think back over my life thus far, I can honestly say that I felt present in most instances. Due to my sensitive nature, I have an overactive sense of what is going on in the moment or during a period. Often that awareness affects my countenance, mood, energy, reactions, and daily movements. As…

Strategy #1: Keep Your Toe in the Water

Leading into my 50th birthday, I reflected a lot on my life and where I currently find myself. I was asked about six months ago, what would you tell your 30-year-old self? What decisions would you change? I responded, “I would not change any decisions I’ve made.” I made them at the time with thought…

Moments

Moments can make us or break us, teach us or beat us down. I pretend to be a glass is half-full type of person, trying to see the positive and focus on what I have or the big picture that is painted with beauty and hope and love. But my sensitive and introverted nature sends…

Midlife Soap Box

I have a range of friends, all aged 45-60, and in the last 6 months I have had many conversations that center around, “ugh, I’m tired,” and “I just need a break/vacation/day”, and “wow, life needs to slow down”. You know what friends? We are operating at a pace that we performed at in our…

Peace Out 2017!

Peace out 2017. I am done with you. 2017 was not what I anticipated, what I hoped for or what I imagined. It was a year of transition, tears, weight gain and struggle. I thought 2015 was a tough year for me, but 2017 served up its own variety of tough. I did not anticipate…

Unbridled Hope

Last week I had the opportunity to see a video of my daughter maneuvering obstacles on her horse, Stanley, without a saddle or a bridle. Let’s just consider that for a minute. Emma was riding a 1500-pound animal and the only manner in which to control him was by leg commands and trust and respect….

The Root of Community

As I walk through this season of life, I find myself more grateful than would be expected. In the initial months of my separation and ultimate divorce, I was so lonely and sad. It was all I could do to get through the day and not cry.  I was uncomfortable everywhere. I would drudge through…